Where there's will. Is there a way?

It happens in life, when things go far from what you expect. You fail again and again and lose confidence in your abilities. When you take your opportunities with utmost sincerity and define your objectives with complete clarity, you expect to reap the benefits of the fruits of your labor. But life consists of randomness in the chaos and you cannot completely control the events around you. Where then would you attribute the reasons for this failure ? Is it luck or incapability?

So then how do you pull yourself out of the habit of falling into the deep hole of despair? There is no easy solution that works like a charm. Simple stated it’s a phase, you take it in your stride.  Everyone will advise you to find your faults work on them. Easily said than done. All you can do in continuous self-improvement while you become accustomed to it.

Another dimension comes in the form of your family, friends and peers. How do you manage these relationships while going on this path to finding your own true self? There is a threshold above which you lose clarity and focus, you begin to question everything random and give undue importance to unrelated events. You shift priorities and become pessimistic about life.

When under pressure, think of past experiences, how you overcame them and hope that everything will be perfectly all right. Just Kidding! This is the worst advice I can give you. It tough to get through this period, it is seemingly impossible. Your whole life flashes before your eyes.

So just let it be, deal with the knowledge and find a new direction to focus on.